I understand language barriers. I understand misunderstandings. What I don’t understand is ignoring something that is very clearly labeled: the name field in the comment form.
If you want to join a discussion, use a real name or even an alias if your worried about privacy issues. Be as real and as transparent as you can be. If not then you’re going to be mistaken for a spammer both on this site and on many others.
I Want to Talk to You…Not Your Superhero Alter Ego!
Who am I talking to? Probably you, but to be more clear, let me share a few personal notes to some of you.
- cHeaP VIagRa: I don’t want to talk to a product, I want to talk to you.
- Web Design Services: I don’t want to talk to your industry, I want to talk to you.
- The Big Internet Guru: I don’t want to talk to your superhero alter ego, I want to talk to you.
- The Greatest Online eZine: I don’t want to talk to your website, I want to talk to you.
It probably sounds like I’m coming across rather harsh in this post. I’m not. I’m providing you with a principle that will help you to connect with people online. Chris Brogan popularized the concept of ‘being human at a distance.’ This concept is at the heart of that.
Being Human at a Distance
The most effective means of communication is face to face. Look a person right in their eyes and a conversation’s impact will be magnified. Since we can’t literally speak face to face on a blog, we should still be working to provide our readers and our followers an experience that is as close to that as possible.
- Name: As I mentioned at the beginning, use your real name. If privacy is a huge concern and you feel compelled not to share your real name, then create an alias, but ultimately you need to be working toward expressing yourself as a real person to other real people.
- Avatar: You will not find a more effective means of branding yourself online than by having a big portrait of your beautiful smiling self. You might think that using a logo for your avatar will help you with your branding but let me be clear: you’re wrong.
- Conversation: Speak plainly, directly and stay on topic. Comments are conversations…they’re not an open ended invitation to build back-links. They’re not a source of self promotion. They are designed to allow intelligent people to carry on thought-provoking conversations.
It’s about open, honest, fluid, friendly conversations. It’s about being a real live person who interacts and genuinely connects with people. Let’s go folks. Let’s change the way that we do business online. Let’s clean up the way that we communicate.
Stop being confused as a spammer and start allowing people to get to know you for the smart, funny, informed blogger that you are.
Ready… Get set… Go.
Now let’s have a conversation.